what really matters...talking about relationships.

i was just talking to a friend the other day and we were talking about female relationships and the ebb and flow of those relationships.  i was telling her that friendships are a lot like life.  when i was in high school, i had a ton of girlfriends that if you would have told me when i was thirty-six (it's true...) we would not talk every day, i would of course thought you were crazy.

then when i was in college, same deal.  i made friends that i still hold dear to my heart, but we talk on facebook occasionally, but aren't involved in the day to day.  

hair school.  the same.

and now that i'm married, i want to spend most all of my time with brad.  he naturally became my best friend as we got to know each other and then get married.  and still after a year, i desire to be with him. to spend unfiltered quality time with him.  i was telling my friend that i feel like you have to be wise in where you choose to spend your time.  for example, if it is time away from brad, i want it to be time that  i feel fulfilled and don't feel like i am wasting my time, when really i would rather be with him.  and yes, friendships i desire and need.  i am a girl, afterall.  

what i don't need...is to be in the cool crowd.  i don't need to be that girl that is always getting a text from one of her thirty best friends pulling her in thirty different directions.  i don't need to be that girl that is too busy with my friends to be with brad.  sure, i have a ton of friends, friends that i value and cherish.  between working a ton, being in a relationship and wanting my husband to feel filled up with love---my time needs to be spent wisely.  i need to be a good stewart of that time.  it's up to me.

and one girl that never disappoints----is this girl.  
monday night after a failed attempt to have a dinner with six, it ended up just being me and her.  it was a random surprise and such an enjoyable night, she brings so much to my soul and i love her and her heart.  

i feel like as women it's so easy to get sidetracked with drama, other people, gossip (dare i say it...), and it's easy to forget to focus on real relationships.  and what really matters...

how do you keep it all in focus?  

2 comments:

Danielle Leal said...

I totally understand how you feel and what you are saying. Its good to have that one good friend rather than many that say they are your friend, but don't really act like it.
I hope you have a fantastic week.
xo,
Danielle

Kassi Mortensen said...

Everyone needs at least that one friend you can always count on!! One GIRLfriend. My hubs is my best friend too... but does he care what I wore in my latest WIWW post... NO. haha.

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