what really matters...talking about relationships.

i was just talking to a friend the other day and we were talking about female relationships and the ebb and flow of those relationships.  i was telling her that friendships are a lot like life.  when i was in high school, i had a ton of girlfriends that if you would have told me when i was thirty-six (it's true...) we would not talk every day, i would of course thought you were crazy.

then when i was in college, same deal.  i made friends that i still hold dear to my heart, but we talk on facebook occasionally, but aren't involved in the day to day.  

hair school.  the same.

and now that i'm married, i want to spend most all of my time with brad.  he naturally became my best friend as we got to know each other and then get married.  and still after a year, i desire to be with him. to spend unfiltered quality time with him.  i was telling my friend that i feel like you have to be wise in where you choose to spend your time.  for example, if it is time away from brad, i want it to be time that  i feel fulfilled and don't feel like i am wasting my time, when really i would rather be with him.  and yes, friendships i desire and need.  i am a girl, afterall.  

what i don't need...is to be in the cool crowd.  i don't need to be that girl that is always getting a text from one of her thirty best friends pulling her in thirty different directions.  i don't need to be that girl that is too busy with my friends to be with brad.  sure, i have a ton of friends, friends that i value and cherish.  between working a ton, being in a relationship and wanting my husband to feel filled up with love---my time needs to be spent wisely.  i need to be a good stewart of that time.  it's up to me.

and one girl that never disappoints----is this girl.  

monday night after a failed attempt to have a dinner with six, it ended up just being me and her.  it was a random surprise and such an enjoyable night, she brings so much to my soul and i love her and her heart.  

i feel like as women it's so easy to get sidetracked with drama, other people, gossip (dare i say it...), and it's easy to forget to focus on real relationships.  and what really matters...

how do you keep it all in focus?